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Toilet Training is a Developmental Process… Not a Race

21 Jan

Hi folks,

Wowzers… what a week! So, last week marked the start of ‘potty training’. Obviously this whole chapter is new to me. Seth is 2yr & 10month old. We decided to begin potty training since Seth has been dry on a night now since before Ted was born. Plus we know he’s more than capable & his speech is really good. He’s great at communicating etc… So, last Monday I went full throttle & took him out of pull-ups. Monday was great… only a few accidents with some success on the potty. Not the big toilet as he decided he didn’t like it… even though we have a child seat & a step etc… Tuesday was even better! We had a wee & poop on the potty – great! I’ve never been so excited to see poo in all my life!!! Wednesday though however… what an utter nightmare. Seth was anxious & just had accident after accident. I need to add that during this time, not once has he asked for the potty. It’s all relied on me asking him like every half hour. Thursday was a little better. We had a successful wee on the potty. But then… midmorning Seth decided to pull his pants down, shout big poo & what followed can only be described as the start to the Eastenders theme tune… you know the one… well that’s how it sounded as Seth proceeded to squat over the carpet. Looking for the positive in this scenario… it was firm so easily lifted from said carpet with no mess left behind. How I’m not sat rocking in a corner clutching a bottle of gin I’ll never know! lol. Sorry for the description… but if you’re a parent… you know what it’s like.

After that… it’s just kinda gone downhill really. Over the weekend Seth had some nightmares about the potty. I just cannot stand to see my little boy upset. So, against peoples advice, I’ve popped him back into training pants. Being so active on social media, people love to give you their opinion. But when it comes to potty training (I’m no guru) I really do think… Mother knows best… Just call me ‘Mother Gothel’ lol. The change in Seth today has been amazing! Seth has never actually told me when he needs the loo… yet today he has told me when he needs a wee & a poo! Now if that’s not progress then I don’t what is. So rather than being full on & constantly asking him… I’m letting him tell me. He’s totally controlling his bladder & telling me each time he needs it. I think it’s also having a positive effect on him as he feels more in control. No terrible tantrums & no crying… that’s got to be healthier & nicer. No one wants this process to be a battle ground. I’m going with the mantra of… slow & steady wins the race.

Some things I’ve found that have helped; Seth adores the Kandoo Wipes in the little dispenser. He loves pressing the button for when you need the wipes to wipe his bum. I’ve never seen anyone do a yoga pose quite like Seth during bum wiping, whilst he’s shouting “wipe me I’m a mess’… it’s a good job I love him lol. He cracks me up. I got the dispenser from Ocado for around £4. Seth has also loved the magnetic reward chart that I bought from Home Bargains for £2.99. Green Stars for a wee & pink for a poop. He also needs his quillow next to him too each time he sits on the potty. I think he just needs to feel safe & secure. It’s a whole world to him.

I’ve made sure he gets plenty praise, even if he doesn’t do anything on the potty… just sitting on it I’m telling he’s clever. When he has an accident, it’s a case of “oh well, next we’ll try to get it in the potty”. There’s no point being too negative or shouting. It’ll only enforce fear. So overall… it’s been a tough week in some ways… yet I’ve personally learnt a lot. I think it’s made me take a step back & view things more from Seth’s point of view. Again though, I’m no guru, far from it. These are just things that have worked for us.

It feels like such a busy time here at the moment. The invitations arrived for Ted’s Christening.

They’re absolutely gorgeous, I paid extra for the gold lined envelopes. I can’t show you all a pic, as I’ve only just posted them today. Almost £19 to send. So with what they cost to make & then the postage to send them out… it’s come to almost £100. But, he’s worth it. And we did the same for Seth, so it’s only fair we do the same for Ted.

He’s such a gorgeous little pudding. I can’t believe he’s almost 13week old. I’ve bought him a gorgeous outfit from the Heritage Collection at Mothercare for the big day. I’ve seen a few things in Next that I’ll get for Seth. Then it’s just us parents who need an outfit. But, as a parent you always come last. The way it should be.

And, when you’re a parent there’s always less time to get ready on a morning as you’re running round after everyone else. That’s why I love my 3 weekly visit to get my nails done.

I get a gel polish. I keep my nails super short, but since Ted has been born, my nails have been very weak. I’ve started taking Seven Seas Hair, Skin & Nails vitamins. They’re already making a difference I feel. My nails are feeling stronger. Last week I also had a consultation for microblading!!!! I’m far too excited!

I always wear make up. I love doing my make up, but it also gives me more confidence. But, I am very self conscious of my eyebrows. I painstakingly paint them on every day with wax & powder… I use BrowZing from Benefit. But because my eyebrows are so ‘made up’ I then have to do a full face of make up really to fit with them if that makes sense. Some days it’d just be nice to be able to wear less make up & be a little more natural. So for me… microblading is the answer. I’m lucky enough to know an amazing lady who does some amazing beauty treatments. She also does my nails. So of course she’s the one doing my eyebrows too. I have my first sitting this week. Then I’ll have a top up in 6 week time.

So, I’ve had the shape & size mapped, I’ve had the dye/colour match done & all of the health & safety allergy tests. I can’t wait to have full, natural looking eyebrows with hair strokes!!! I’m a victim of the over plucked 90s brow… but not for much longer. Eeeeck… so stay tuned for the results. I’ll be blogging about my full brow journey… Glad brows to Beautiful Brows… or something along those lines lol.

Along with new brows… I’ve gotten myself a new shiny iPhone XR in red. I LOVE it!!!

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Love love love it! Even better when you get a good contract deal that is cheaper than you were paying for your old iPhone! But, as it’s a bit bigger than my old iPhone 6s… I’ve had to sell my beloved Vivienne Westwood pouch. I don’t get on well with phone cases really,  I much prefer a pouch I can put my phone in to stop it getting scratched in my bag etc… I decided to treat myself to a customised Lucrin leather iPhone pouch. I do love a monogram.

Of course I went with the red to match my phone.

Ooooh, something I’ve tried this week is non-sulphate shampoo. Being a natural curly haired girl, my hair can be so high maintenance. It’s very long & super thick. Even thicker since having the boys. I don’t always want to fully straighten my hair, but when it’s left to dry naturally I fall victim to the dreaded frizz. I’ve been reading up on the Curly Girl Method (CGM) online. That’s when I first really took notice of non-sulphate shampoo’s. Palmers make a shampoo & conditioner in Coconut Oil & Olive Oil.

Apparently, the more you use it, the better it makes your hair each time. I’ve only used the coconut one so far & that’s only been once. And I have to say that my hair isn’t frizzy at all. It’s way more manageable already. So I’m really excited to see the results 6 month down the line. I’m really just looking for all of those little beauty hacks to make my life easier & getting ready on a morning quicker. It won’t be long until I’m doing a school run… eeeeck. So getting ready really needs to be as simplified as possible.

Since we’ve all not been well & then with beginning the dreaded toilet training… We’ve literally spent a whole week at home which is different for us. But, it’s actually been nice. We’ve played, decorated cardboard boxes (I mean who doesn’t love a box lol) & had lots of cuddles.

All in all… it’s been a positive week really, even though toilet training is pretty stressful. I mean… on day 2 I booked another holiday lol. Nothing extravagant… a week at Haven in Blackpool. I’m so excited… it’s been years since I’ve been to Blackpool. Seth loves a Haven holiday & I’m sure Ted will too. Hopefully the weather will be nice & we can get down on the beach. If not, then we have the facilities on site as well everything else Blackpool has to offer.

I’m very much looking forward to a nice chilled out weekend.

Seth has football practice, then a birthday party. Apart from that… it’ll be a cosy family time for us. Ted has his 12week jabs this coming Friday… so that’s another very good reason to make sure it’s a quiet one for us.

Well, I think that’s about it really for this little update. Thanks for reading!!!

Oh & for any potty training parents out there… hang in there… we got this!

Love & Huggles,

Hayley xxx