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Everything is Easier With Sleep!

30 Jan

Hi Folks,

Happy New Year! Sorry its been a wee while since my last blog post. It’s been a very busy few months! I wanted my first blog post of 2020 to be more like my older blog posts… back to basics. More info, tips, advice & general rants about surviving day to day as a stay at home – work from home Mama.

I’ve been joking for a long time now that I’ll one day write a book on the bedtime routine I use for the boys, as they both sleep. I’m constantly being asked what my secret is. But to be honest… I have no idea lol. So… I thought I’d share with you all, what we do each evening. I don’t do anything magical, but, you mind find something you’ve not tried. Or, I might be just doing the same as everyone else.

I love reading blogs & I get a lot of my fave tips from other parenting blogs. So hopefully… I can pass some on to you too.

Firstly, I’d just like to say that I’m no guru or medical professional. This is only what we have personally implemented in our own home for our bedtime routine. 

Okay, so lets start right at the very beginning. Seth was born at 38wks via c-section. I was determined from day 1 to be this amazingly successful breast feeding Mama. That just didn’t go to plan. Within the first 6 days, Seth had lost over 14% of his body weight dropping from 8lbs to 6lbs 13oz. We were rushed into hospital – literally the worst day of my life. The guilt I felt was immense. That first week quite literally was sleep deprivation at it’s finest. I had Seth constantly on my boob & when he wasn’t attached to me – an electric breast pump was. I was emotional, recovering from major surgery, I felt guilt that I wasn’t providing for my baby & I felt let down by my breast feeding support nurse. Whilst in hospital Seth began to combination feed. With amazing support from my Husband, GP, Midwife, Health Visitor, Consultant & Paediatrician, I made the decision to stop breast feeding… I had zero milk. Still to this day – I struggle with the feelings of guilt & like I let Seth down in that first week of his life.

Once we were discharged from hospital, Seth gained weight steadily on formula. But, he struggled with extreme colic. It was horrendous. No matter what we did, he’d scream & scream. Even with the help of Infacol & a special milk, he’d struggle. We had a SnüzPod at the side of our bed as I just don’t like co-sleeping ( personal choice). But I’d say for a good 8 weeks, Seth slept upright on my chest or Grahams. It’d be the only way he’d settle. So it’d be hours upon hours of just sitting awake on a night in bed, so Seth could sleep & get relief from the colic. I remember on a morning, retching & throwing up from sheer exhaustion & my Mam telling me over the phone that she’d not heard of anyone dying from sleepless nights. Ah yes, just to add… both my family & Graham’s live quite a distance away from us. So we have no regular childcare or family just popping in to help.

After around 8 weeks, the colic settled, from then on, Seth would sleep 6hrs: Midnight to 6am. We used to class that as sleeping through the night. When you go from zero sleep to 6hrs right through, you feel like you’ve had a week at a spa retreat lol. Seth slept in his SnüzPod beside me until he was 5 & a half month old. He began to outgrow it at that point. So, he went into his own room in a full size cotbed. He looked so tiny. But he slept great & started to sleep from around 9pm to 6am, which was just amazing. At around 7 months old though, Seth started with partial awakening which lasted around 2-3 month. He would literally wake every 45mins screaming. All we could put it down to was teething. That was so hard. Functioning on such little sleep is tough. But, as a parent, you just want to comfort your baby. The only way they can communicate they’re hurting or they’re upset – is through crying. Thankfully, the partial awakening stopped as quick as it had started.

With Seth being our first, we had no experience of a sleep routine. Graham has always gotten home around 6pm/6:30pm, unless he has assessments to mark etc… then it could be much later. On occasion he does have nights away with work or through freelance work. But I’m always here with being able to work from home. We’d both agreed that we didn’t want bedtime to be negative or a battle ground. So, we have never ever used bed as a punishment. Neither of us agree with the cry it out method or self soothing method. I’ve also never let Seth nap in his room. When napping during the day, I’ve always let him nap downstairs. I just always wanted to keep the bedroom for bedtime to make a clear distinction between bed & nap. I’ve also been careful of danger naps… napping after 5pm has always been a no no, unless they’re poorly.

Seth’s routine from being 6 month has been:

  • No napping beyond 5pm… so I’d wake him gently from a nap if he was napping late afternoon or, I’d keep him awake by playing etc…
  • Teatime has always been around 4:30pm/5pm for the kids.
  • Bathtime 6pm – we don’t do bath time every night as Seth has always had baby eczema. Again, this is just a personal choice. I’ve always found, that a bath later than 6:30pm is too stimulating & tends to keep them awake.
  • CBeebies bedtime hour is always on in our house… PJs on, Milk & chill time. So we have no running around or loud toys from bedtime hour starting. Once bedtime hour is over – no more Kids TV. That has always been our rule. Kids TV is too stimulating, so nothing after 7pm. No tablets either & especially not in the bedroom. Again – that’s just personal choice.

Seth is now 3 years old & has gone to bed for 7pm since he was around 20 month old. We take him to bed, he has a wee, we read a story & that’s it. He goes to sleep. Obviously, as a baby, it wasn’t as simple as that. So, after the partial awakening had ended. We always gave Seth his bottle upstairs on our bed around 7:30pm. Then, we’d let him fall asleep in our arms & we’d carry him to bed. If he woke in the night, we’d give him a bottle in our room but with no lights on, no TV. Just keep it super boring. No talking etc… So he’d have the bottle & go back to bed.

One night, Graham was away in London & I took Seth up for his bottle. I lay with him on our bed & he was just looking at me, as if he was saying “well I ain’t sleeping here”… so I carried him to his room & put him in his cot. I took the monitor downstairs & I sat just watching him. I half expected him to cry as he was still awake… but he didn’t. He just lay there stroking his quilt & fell asleep! From that moment, we would give him a bottle & then put him in bed awake for him to nod off.

Still to this day, Seth has his little ambient blue night light plugged in so it’s not super dark. He loves his room & his bed. He’s now graduated to a big bunk bed – he sleeps on the bottom bunk as he’s only 3, we do have blackout blinds & black out curtains in his room – mainly for when it’s Summer. But he still likes his blue light on.

When Ted was born, we already had a good bedtime routine in place, so Ted just kind of fell in line with that.

At this point – I just want to point a few things out that we do:

  • Both boys were bottle fed. Ted from day one as I didn’t want to try breast feeding in case I let down my baby all over again.
  • Both boys have used soothers. Ted always goes to bed with a soother.
  • I have always kept the cot free & empty of toys, bumpers etc… I never used a sleep/grow bag purely as both Seth or Ted would settle in them. So I always used cellular blankets & a tight fitted sheet on the mattress. Seth now takes his quillow to bed & Cub (his little Ikea Bear)
  • Both boys have slept in a full size cotbed – so they’ve lots of space to stretch out. Seth had the sides off his cotbed from 23 month old & then he went into a full size single/bunk bed from age 3.
  • During nap times, both boys have always napped downstairs.

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Nap times downstairs were a little bit of a mine field when Ted was first born. By this time Seth had outgrown day time naps & began going up to bed at 7pm. But Ted needed somewhere safe to nap. With a 2 & a half year old running round, I was always scared that a moses basket or a lounger would get knocked over. So, we went with a large playpen that had a firm memory foam & sprung mattress from iSafe. It was a life saver. It’s spacious & safe for Ted to nap in. We still have it now. Ted is 15 month old & loves his naps in there. I do allow soft toys in his play pen – purely as I can see him at all times. He doesn’t have toys in his cot bed upstairs. That’s totally free of clutter.

Ted follows the same routine as Seth with regard to when he gets his PJs on, bath time & tea times etc… From 8 weeks old, Ted has pretty much slept from 11pm right through. From around a year old he’s started to go to bed around 8pm, but recently, he’s started asking for bed once Seth has gone up. So, we put Seth to bed, then around 7:30pm, Ted will have a bottle in our room & then goes straight into his room to bed. We put Ted in his cot awake & falls asleep with no problems. We have video monitors on both boys in case they need us in the night. Ted sometimes will wake in the night for a bottle. But it’s literally a quick bottle & straight back to bed.

Ted was in a SnüzPod from birth to 5 month. He outgrew it from 5 month so he transferred to the Joie Kubbie Sleep which is also a side sleeper. He slept in that until he was 10 month old. The he went into his own room into a full size cot bed.

It’s lovely being able to have evenings free. But, being poorly or teething throws the sleeping lark out the window. But that’s just parenting, you have to expect sleepless nights at times.

When we go on holiday, we still follow our bedtime routine. That may sound strict, but Seth still only being 3yrs old, he doesn’t really appreciate a late night as a treat. By 7pm he’s asking for bed as he’s so tired. He’s so active, so he’s ready for his bed. Keeping the routine is constant. We’ve just always kept it up & over time it’s paid off. We’ve taken the boys out at night for meals etc…

I think in the beginning, it can be a bit of a shock to the system at just how much your life does change when you become a parent, but they’re only little for such a short time. Me & Graham met at University & we were together 7 year before we got married. Then we had 5 years together after we got married just us… so we have done the late nights out etc… I think we’re happy being home all snuggly now lol. I’m sure once the boys are packed off to University, we can become party animals again lol.

So there you have it… that’s our bedtime routine. See… I have no hidden secret. It’s just been keeping a good routine in place day in & day out. I hope you’ve found this useful?

Thank you so much reading 🙂

Love & Huggles,

Hayley xxx

 

Sleeping Soundly Side by Side

2 Apr

Hi folks

A few weeks ago we got our gorgeous Kubbie Sleep from Joie. It’s no secret that Joie is one of our most favourite baby brands. We have lots of Joie products that we use everyday. Our latest addition – the Kubbie Sleep certainly does not disappoint.

First off… Ted is a really big bambino lol. He’s measuring above average on the 75th centile. He’s incredibly long. This side sleeper has plenty of room. Ted has slept so soundly in it. The mattress can be lowered, but right now we’ve been using it on the higher setting as Ted is only 5 month old. The cot is nice & wide too. So much so that there’s plenty of room for Ted to roll around. In fact he’s started to roll over on to his tummy in his sleep…. not ideal I know. He also likes to do a spot of baby yoga too lol.

The mattress is completely removable so you can easily use for play time & tummy time. The metal rods on it make it super firm & nice & comfy. Lots of travel costs seem to be to too soft & flexible n the base I’ve found. This is perfect & loses no shape when you lay your baby down in it. A cot bed flat sheet will fit this mattress perfectly… thats what I’ve been using as you can tucked it under better than a fitted sheet. I’s like to also mention that with the mattress being so firm – you could easily use this form birth.

Another great feature is that you can afix this to your bed for safety & you can also drop the side. So it’s a perfect side sleeper for home & for travel. We’re actually going away next month & then again in June. So we will be sure to take our Kubbie Sleep with us. It folds down into a carry bag. It’s becomes so slimline that it easily fits into the footwell of the backseat of your car leaving your boot space completely free.

Exact dimensions:

Setup Dimensions: l 99cm x w 59.5cm x h 80.5cm

Folded Dimensions: l 27cm x w 25cm x h 80.5cm

Product Weight: 8.79kg

Product Usage: birth to 15kg

 

All four sides of the cot are mesh lined for ventilation & there’s integrated wheels to, perfect for moving around.

Here’s a list of the exact features:

  • Bedside cot for safe and cosy side-by-side sleep 
  • Simple and stylish design with exposed tubing complements any space 
  • Full size bassinet removes and attaches easily 
  • Compact, ultra secure frame for naptime or playtime 
  • Removable mattress doubles for naptime or playtime 
  • Two integrated wheels 
  • Mesh lined for ventilation on all 4 sides 
  • Compact, folded package for easy travel or storage
  • Tidy travel bag included for travelling and storage 
  • Zipper on side for easy entry

Ted has slept so soundly in his Kubbie Sleep. He literally goes down at 10pm/10:30pm & wakes up around 6am. If you’re having trouble settling your little one… maybe the Kubbie Sleep is the magical answer you’ve been looking for lol. It’s nice knowing that when we’re travelling to places, we can take a safe, secure & snuggly bed for Ted. We like going for little vacations & weekends away so this is perfect for us. This would also be ideal to keep at a grandparents house if you have family who babysit on a regular basis.

Overall… this gets a 10 out of 10 from Ted. I’ll be writing another blog post all about it after our weekend getaway next month, then again after our seaside week away in June.

Thank you so much as always for reading & I hope you’ve found this review useful. Don’t forget to check out the Joie website for more info & for a list of stockists.

Love & Huggles,

Hayley xxx

 

Disclaimer: This is a collaborative posts – I have received gifting &/or compensation for featuring some of these items, but all opinions are my own.

As Snug As a Bug

26 Nov

Hi folks,

Wow… can you believe that Christmas is literally around the corner? And more to the point… can you believe that Ted is almost 5 weeks old!?

Time is just flying by so super quick! But then… it has been a really busy few weeks as you can imagine. Having a newborn & a toddler to look after really does speed up your days.

One of the best things about being a Mammy for the second time, is that you don’t make those money wasting purchases. You know those things that you buy with your first born, that are a total waste of time & money. Second time round you generally have a better idea on what you actually need & use. You have more of an idea on what will be functional & make your life that little bit easier.

An item that we’ve been using a lot is our British Baby Box. With Christmas almost here, this would make a fantastic Christmas gift for any pregnant friends or relatives.

I know I reviewed this box a little while ago, but it was before Ted was born, so now I can give more an insight into actually using it. For anyone that hadn’t read my original review, you can find it here.

So… what do we love about the box. Well first of all… Ted finds it super snuggly.

I know you may think… “it’s a cardboard box’… but it really is very sturdy. Also, the mattress in it is lovely & firm. Perfect for newborns. It also comes with a lovely fitted 100% organic cotton sheet. Which washes lovely I may add. I mean that’s important when you have nappy malfunctions & reflux to contend with! I’ve washed this sheet so many times that I’ve lost count. Each time it has washed lovely.

Another plus for this box, is that it fits lovely inside of a cot. When they’re tiny newborns, they look swamped inside of a cot. I know you can buy these ‘nests & pods’ for babies to sleep in that sit inside of a cot, but a lot of safe sleeping guidelines are stating that they’re not ideal for overnight sleeping. Whereas the British Baby Box meets all of the safe sleeping guidelines. 

The British Baby Box is great for napping & for overnight sleeping. We’re going on holiday in a few weeks to Winter Wonderland at Centre Parcs, & we’re planning on taking our British baby Box with us as a travel cot. I’ll be sure to take lots of pics! It’s so lightweight, so easy to transport. Just to add, with the box being so lightweight, it’s ideal for taking up & downstairs. I had a c-section & was told I can’t lift anything heavy. Well this box is super light. So I have no trouble carrying up & downstairs for as & when I need it. It’s also ideal for taking too & from relatives houses for babysitting etc…

The box is also great for tummy time too! Tummy time is so important for your babies development. And… the lid is great for use as a changing mat. Especially for while you’re away on holiday. It means it’s one less thing to pack.

Prices start from £50 for the Baby Box. You can choose to buy a package & have the box filled with goodies. Or you can buy the box complete with mattress & fitted sheet – then fill it yourself if buying as a gift. As a mother to a newborn, there’s nothing better than a useful functional gift. The British Baby Box is that gift! Once Ted has outgrown his box, I’ll be using it for storage in his nursery.

So there you have it… it’s useful, sturdy, comfortable, lightweight & it’s super cute! I love the British Baby Box. I’ll be updating you all about the box when we take it on holiday & as Ted grows.

Thanks as always for reading & I hope you’ve found this review useful!

Love & Huggles,

Hayley xxx

Sleeping Soundly with Sanggol

18 Mar

Hi folks,

We all love our sleep, but during pregnancy we seem to need it even more. But come nighttime it’s so difficult to get comfy… especially when you’re a tummy sleeper like me!

Even though I’m still in the early stages of pregnancy, I’m having a bit of a ‘Princess & the Pea’ type of scenario going on at night. Laying flat on my stomach is so tender & uncomfortable. During my last pregnancy I was able to tummy sleep to almost 20wks. This time round I feel as though I have a hard rock under my stomach. So as you can imagine… nighttime hasn’t been comfy at all. Well, that was until I discovered the most perfect XL Pregnancy Pillow from Sanggol.

This pillow is a full body support pillow… it’s literally like sleeping in a big warm hug. Honestly… that’s the only way I can describe it.

First of all, I’d like to start by saying – this pillow isn’t just for pregnancy. I say that because I have a bit of a back problem & I’ve had 3 surgeries in the past. I suffer on a daily basis with pain & nighttime always seems to be the worst. This pillow has helped me so much. I got this pillow to help during pregnancy, but it actually turns out I have a pillow for life! This pillow would have been fantastic during my recovery from the surgeries, I really wish I’d discovered them years ago.

As most of you know, I’ve also had my right leg rebuilt with the aid of an external fixator. Again, this pillow would’ve been amazing for supporting my leg & hips during the recovery process.

I’ve actually already become so attached to this pillow over the last few weeks I really feel as though it needs a name lol… so any name ideas… do let me know!

Actually, the hubby also added that he feels more confident in bed as he knows he can’t just roll over & potentially knock me or hurt me. Especially as my bump grows. So it’s like a protective hug too!

Anyway… back to pregnancy.

There’s my ‘hug’ above.

So, you can see this is a full body U-shaped pillow. I don’t use any other pillows in bed. I just lay in between the pillow & the top part acts as your usual head pillow providing support for your neck & shoulders. By wrapping my leg over the pillow when laying on my side I feel I’m getting more support for my hips. Also, as your bump grows you can rest your bump on the pillow. I have a very delicate tummy at the moment as I’m throwing up quite a lot. So this has helped that aspect too.

This pillow just seems to be supporting all aspects of my achiness really. I really cannot fault it. We go on holiday at the end of May & I will most definitely be taking my pillow with me.

The pillow is made from hollow fibre, so it scrunches down to make you comfy, but then bounces & springs back. But don’t worry… I shall keep you all updated via this blog during my pregnancy to let you all know how my pillow is doing so I can prove just how hard wearing it really is. Another good thing – it comes with a complimentary pillow case! So you can easily remove it to wash it. Which is always good, especially if like me you sometimes don’t remove your make up before bed. Panda eye transfer… it’s never a good look for any pillow!

Knowing I need to have a planned c-section – this pillow is going to come in so handy. It’ll be great for recovery. I wish I’d had last time. I can also see how this is going to be great for nursing too. I wonder if I can squeeze it in to my Hospital bag?

Sanggol offer free delivery & a full refund if you’re not 100% satisfied. But to be honest… I really can’t see that happening. I fell in love with it from my first cosy full nights sleep! I couldn’t be without it now.

You can follow Sanggol on Facebook, Twitter & Instagram to keep up to date on news & offers.

I’m planning on doing a YouTube video soon to give you another in depth looksie at this fab pillow.

Thank so much as usual for reading 🙂

I hope you’ve found this review useful!

Love & Huggles,

Hayley xxx

My Very FIRST 100% NEGATIVE Review! 

13 Dec

Hi folks

As you all know, I’m a person filled with positivity. Even if something has a few flaws – I’ll always see the positives & back the negatives with a good point. Well unfortunately – not this time. I have a product here that I’d seriously avoid if I were you. Don’t give it a second thought… don’t give it a second glance… don’t lift it from the shelf to read the description… and certainly DO NOT WASTE your money! 

Now I bet you’re all dying to know what the product is? Well I can reveal that this God awful product is: BT 7000 Baby Monitor with a staggering RRP of £149.95!!! Now, when reading the following on the back of the box you can see how you may be swayed into buying it:

  • Large 3.5″ LCD colour touch screen
  • 19 lullabies
  • Micro USB charging
  • Connect up to 4 cameras
  • Temperature indication on Parent and Baby unit
  • Manual pan & tilt functionality
  • 3x zoom
  • Up to 300m range
  • Adjustable nightlight
  • Audio only mode

Sounds great doesn’t it? What they fail to tell you is that it just doesn’t work. The monitor is constantly disconnecting from the camera. Meaning: it beeps VERY loudly & also flashes on the back of the camera. So when our little boy, Seth is settled & asleep in his nursery – the camera flashes constantly like a disco! It’s always waking him up. We live in a normal sized 3 bedroom house & it just will not stay connected. It disconnects every 10 to 15mins. We’ve tried moving it all over to find the ‘sweet spot’ but there doesn’t seem to be a one. It doesn’t connect via wifi so that isn’t an option. 


This monitor is pretty much – unusable. £149.95 is a lot of money to spend when you have to resort back to the age old methods of simply keeping all the doors open & creeping around so you can hear teeny tiny sound. 

A good baby monitor is that one essential item you need to be able to reply on as a new parent. You’d think BT would be that one household name you’d be able to count on. Very bitterly disappointed with this product & very let down. 

When purchasing essentials for your new arrival – you don’t want to be wasting your money. This unfortunately is a complete waste. I shall be sharing these findings with BT – so I shall let you all know what their feedback is. 

Thanks as always for reading & please feel free to share his post. 

Love & Huggles,

Hayley xxx